🪞 Every fear has an opposite waiting to be remembered. May I remember that I am… 💫
Sometimes the most unexpected moments hold the biggest lessons. I wasn’t even looking for inspiration that day — just scrolling, half-distracted — when Tracee Ellis Ross appeared on my screen and said something that made me put my phone down mid-swipe.
There was a softness in her voice, but what she said landed deep.
“I do my list, right? I resent, I’m afraid — whatever those things are, I get it all out. I do the circles of the deep ones, the big ones. Then I create a prayer out of that.
I take those words, and I try to flip them. What is the opposite of that? What is the feeling that that is not giving me that I want?
And then I create a prayer that is: May I remember that I am…”
She gave an example:
“I’m afraid I will never find partnership.”
“May I remember that I am worthy of belonging and connection.”
And she added something so tender — that whenever that same anxiety comes back, she repeats the prayer. Sometimes she even writes it on a little card and when she looks back later, she would realize that one has healed for a while.
That’s when she said something that changed how I see emotional healing altogether: Each fear, each hurt, deserves its own prayer — a specific one, not a general “everything will be fine.” Just like the body.
Tracee explained that at 52, she has some small physical injuries. If someone looked at her body, they might say, “You just need to strengthen your hamstrings.” But it isn’t her whole hamstring. It’s a very specific part. A tiny section that needs its own exercise.
And she said — that’s how the soul works, too. You don’t need a broad healing statement like “I’m enough.” You need a specific remembrance that speaks directly to the ache hiding in that little corner of your heart.
Because when you can listen to yourself deeply, locate the sore spot, and give it exactly what it needs — that’s how you build an unshakable foundation within you.
Heaven.
That word hung in the air. Because isn’t that what we’re all longing for? To build a foundation that is based on knowing ourselves — not from a place of fixing, but of caring for our own hidden parts like they matter. So that night, I took out my notebook and tried Tracee’s practice.
I wrote:
I resent feeling unseen. I’m afraid of being misunderstood.
Then I flipped them:
May I remember that I am seen by the Divine, even when the world doesn’t notice.
May I remember that I am deeply understood by my own soul.
Something softened inside me. The tension left my shoulders. My heart felt lighter.
Tracee’s words reminded me that the goal isn’t to silence our fears — it’s to meet them, understand them, and then speak directly to them in the language of remembrance.
Because every fear has an opposite waiting to be remembered.
Create Your Own Remembering Prayer
- Make your list.
Write freely: I resent… I’m afraid… I feel… Don’t hold back. Empty your heart onto the page. - Circle the deep ones.
Notice the ones that sting — the ones you avoid reading twice. Those are your “specific muscles” that need care. - Ask the sacred question:
“What is the opposite of this fear or resentment? What is the feeling I’m actually longing for?” - Transform it into a remembering prayer:
Begin with:
May I remember that I am… and finish the sentence with your truth.
Example:
I’m afraid of failure.
May I remember that I am guided, and every step leads me closer to alignment.
- Repeat it when the fear returns.
Because it will. But now, you’ll have something stronger — a personal prayer designed precisely for your healing.
✨ Try it tonight. Turn your fears into prayers. Give every ache its own medicine. And when you whisper “May I remember that I am…” — know that the universe is whispering it right back.
Write it. Feel it. Flip it. Heal it. And remember every fear has an opposite waiting to be remembered.
With fierce love,
Salima
